How To Have A Fairy Tale Romance by Jennifer Good

Growing up we all dream of the perfect relationship. Our dreams are reiterated over and over in the childhood classic movies and books we watched and read. But, once we hit the "real world", it seems that those dreams we've tried so hard to keep, always end up breaking in pieces all around us. This often leads to the viewpoint that finding and maintaining that fairy tale romance is futile and hopeless. There is one exception that loving couple whom seems to have everything together. How many times have you questioned, "Why can't we be like them?" The truth is, every couple can be like this by following the traits of the characters you formed your dream relationship from. Start living your life the way you want to by applying the following traits of a fairy tale couple today!

Leave no doubt of your affection.
In romances you'll notice how the main pursuer is usually always up front about their feelings. Never do they let them believe otherwise. Take a look at your relationship (or past ones). Does your partner really know exactly how you feel? When was the last time you told them why you loved them or showered them with unexpected attention for no reason? If it's been awhile do it now!

Value your relationship.
Most fairy tales involve the characters going through a tremendous obstacle to actually be able to be together. Overcoming those obstacles teach the couple how valuable the relationship and each other are. In real life it is easy to forget how important your relationship actually is. It may not seem like you've overcome great feats to be together, but if you think about it you could be alone still searching for someone. Think about how you would feel or what you would do if for some reason you would never see your partner again after today. How would that affect you? Make an effort to show your partner how much you value them and your relationship.

Defend and respect your partner.
When watching or reading a romance you'll notice how the characters never disrespect each other. Also, if some injustice has occurred towards their partner they are the first to stand up for them. There is something in doing those two things that completely changes the dynamics of a relationship. Imagine how you would feel if you witnessed your partner defending you or speaking highly of you to someone else. Make it a point to be there for your partner when they need it most and to show how much you respect them.

Don't evaluate or criticize your partner.
If a character in a romance overly criticized or tried to change the other character, the romance would never take place. Why? Because no one wants to be reminded of their faults or shortcomings, especially from someone who is supposed to love them unconditionally. A relationship is a place where each partner can feel completely and totally free with each other without judgment. It should be a haven where you go when outside forces close in. The next time you feel the urge to say something that isn't positive towards your partner don't. Accept them for who they are completely.

Don't let outside sources influence your relationship.
The number one antagonist in a fairy tale is a third party trying to destroy a relationship. Many times it's not even intentional. Outside influences are one of the largest causes of strife in a relationship. Take a look at your relationship now. Is there anything you both frequently argue about? Chances are it's been caused by an outside influence. The next time you feel the need to criticize, judge or argue with your partner make sure it's actually something that originated from you. If someone tells you something about your partner, first check the validity of the source and then confront your partner in an adult manner. Don't first assume what the person said was true. This is trait is especially important when it comes to family members.

Last, but definitely not least, don't do anything to cause a lack of affection from your partner.
Not all fairy tales have a happy ending. When they don't it's almost always because one of the characters did something to make the other fall out of love with them. Your partner can only love you as much as you give reason for them to love you. Don't jeopardize your relationship by doing something you know will cause them to lose their trust, faith and/or love in you. It's not worth it ever.

"Does he or she usually pay the tab each and every time? Let's change that for a minute, shall we?
Suggest dinner at an expensive restaurant. After the meal, dessert and coffee, you slip away and pay the check.

When your mate insists on payng the check, (and he/she probably will) have the waiter bring the check to him/her marked, Paid in full by (your name here) someone who Loves you, baby.

This is for the guy's. Most women love a clean home. But when was the last time you men did the dishes or scrubbed and polished the floor? I cleaned hour house from top to bottom and my wife loved it. She came home with nothing to do but relax and enjoy spending time with the man she loves. Give it a try.
Paul



Go into her room while she is not there and lay a single rose on her bed with a card that says " I love you"
JLK




Blind fold your partner and take them up on a mountain and have a table, two chairs, a candle and food waiting for you. Dine under the stars - it's magical.
Katie





Don't touch your partner only in sexual ways. Hold hands, kiss their cheek softly, tell them you love them (and really mean it). Act like you did when you were first dating.
Missy



Write your feelings for each other on a piece of paper, put it in a bottle
close it and let it go together at the sea.
C.C.





When she goes out of town without you...write her a letter for each day that
she is gone and give her instructions not to read it until that night! My
boyfriend did that for me and it was so sweet!
JLK




With just a dab of soap, write on the bathroom mirror something sweet (or sexy). Rub over it a few times until you can't see the soap residue. When he steps out of the shower, the mirror steams up, but your message is visible.
Nikki



You might want to try this one he'll love it. I sent my husband for 4 days a package through the mail with a romantic card telling him I wanted a date with him on Friday and I included 2 wine glasses and massage oil and put in a few candy kisses, he received the package on Tuesday. The 2nd package was a very skimpy see through short robe received on Wednesday. The 3rd was a very skimpy see through short negligee received on Thursday. The 4th was a thong which arrived on Friday. When I got home from work he had a candle lite dinner waiting for me soft music playing. Need I say any more? By the way we are in our fifties and we always look for ways to keep the spark alive. (You could send packages to work if that is possible my husband gets the mail so it worked for us.)
D.W.

"Call your favorite radio station and dedicate a love song to your boo." Record the dedication, because he or she may not be listening at the time. Play it for him/her later, and watch his/her face light up!"

Fill the house with scented candles and take a bubble bath together. Then feed each other ice cream and cuddle all night long.